Saturday, September 15, 2018

Sincerely Loving Someone With Mental Illness

By Brenda Mitchell

For some folk, they may believe that love can only go so far. When friends and extended family are told of their situation relating to being able to loving someone with mental illness and various other disorders, they don't always understand their predicament. It is not easy to know how one feels when you have not been in this position yourself.

Parents usually begin to feel ashamed of themselves at first, thinking this is their fault and they may be useless parents. This is the general thought pattern, and it is only natural to think this way. A parent may compare their kids to another family who is healthy. Perhaps another family has not even paid as much attention to the children.

It will cause parents to feel bitter about the whole situation. At this point, parents should be thinking of counseling themselves. There are many emotions that can come into play. Many parents will have to support the child and it means that they have to go into work every day. It leads to stress trying to raise the finances. Marriages can cause a great deal of stress as well.

Of course, when you have a spouse who has borderline personality disorder or bipolar, for example, you won't find this to be easy at all. It especially becomes tough when there are kids in the home. Your moods will go up and down, and children obviously won't understand what is happening. They will see mom and dad fighting and it makes them feel upset and anxious.

Often, parents become so wound up in their own problems because of the condition that they forget about the children. It is imperative to take note of the kids and what they are going through as well. If one neglects this, you find that they grow up often feeling guilty thinking that this was their fault and they are too blame. This becomes a pattern in their life.

One also needs to know that this is something that goes around in the genes. One must be aware of various signs and symptoms. For example, when you feel that you are depressed or anxious, it is important to follow this up in the early stages so you don't land up with the same predicament on your hands.

Bullying is a major problem in schools today. It can leave kids with bad emotional scars and it is important to open up. Parents need to be aware of the symptoms. Teens often go through times where they are rebellious due to depression, for example. It can be hurtful for parents. They will sometimes think that they are not great parents.

There are different types of therapy programs as well. It can depend on the individual and the disorder. There are big groups as well as those which are more intimate. A sibling will struggle with various emotions that come up as well. They often don't understand why so much attention is given to their brother or sister. They may be embarrassed at certain times. It is therefore, important to deal with this as well.

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